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I have been convicted.....

boy that sounds bad huh...well in a way it is!   

I remember in highschool we regularily threw around phrases like "your such a ____" and you can fill in the blank with the 3 letter F word....or the 6 letter R word!!    It was something we just never thought about, I mean everyone said it right??   As I grew up it became less of a "your such a ____" and more of a "that's so _____" and in popped that 3 letter G word.

I have ALWAYS hated racial slurs and have fought a losing battle with elder members of my family to stop using them.    They think its a joke and like to whip them around when they can to get a rise out of me!

A long time ago I dropped the F and G words from my vocabulary because it was no different than any of the racial slurs and because I have many LGBT people who have crossed my path who I love and adore! One day it just clicked for me that what I was saying was TERRIBLE and hurtful and no worse than what my Grandmother said at the dinner table!

But this weekend I was convicted about the R word!  I was watching some mindless program on TV and this commmercial came on...why don't you stop and watch it too:

My eyes filled with tears and my heart broke, I was immediatley filled with guilt and knew I had to make a change!   It was the simplest concept and it finally clicked in my mind.   I can't tell you why it clicked for me that day, but I am just so happy that it did.    Its not like I run around saying it all the time, but I have been know to call things that annoy me or that I don't like the dreaded R word.   I have even told someone not to be so R word!   Man it hurts just to write that sentence.

Check out the campaign, and maybe you want to join me in my pledge to stop the word!

I love how their "word poster" is just like Girl Guides "word shirt".    My life really has come to be about the journey to respect, inclusion, unity and acceptance.

Lets Spread the Word
to End the Word! 
The new R word is RESPECT!


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